The King speaks with fire. Love’s desire. Combusts the flames of love transpired from His higher passion wired with a flaming heart of sapphires. God wants you to feel it.

Can you feel it? Passionate love?

Don’t settle for less.

My King kisses boldly. Courageously holy. With rubies He holds me in treasures He told me belong to me. Because He loves me more than everything. God loves you… more than everything. He wants you to wait for it.

Can you wait for it? Lovers love?

Don’t settle for less.

“I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other!“ Revelation‬ ‭3:15

My King kisses boldly. Courageously holy. With rubies He holds me in treasures He told me belong to me. Because He loves me more than everything. You would want it. If you would wait for it.

Can you wait for it? Lovers love?

Don’t settle for less.

“I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! Since you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.” Revelation‬ ‭3:15-16

Can you get saucy?

God does not orchestrate relationships to be mediocre. He only gives passionate love.

Passionate love arises from two lovers of Jesus whom God divinely orchestrates to connect and join in love. He is the match-maker. He is the example. He is the divine source.

Don’t blame God for a lack of passionate love. He is the most potent essence of passion! Absorb Him into your being!

In Revelation chapter 3, God talks to seven churches in Asia Minor talking to them about what was going on in their church and in their midst so that He could bring them closer to Him in relationship. In chapter 3 God reminds the church at Laodicea that their lukewarm apathy is repulsive to a God who asks for vibrant love and emotions in that love.

“You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.’ But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked.” Revelation‬ ‭3:17‬

Be brave enough to admit the reality of your relationship.

Be brave enough to make a change.

Don’t marry someone you are not attracted to just to expedite your status from single to married.

If you don’t want to marry him, don’t.

Better to wait on God than endure a lackluster marriage.

I feel the zeal of the Lord outraged at so many of His people whom He seeks to bless with whole and enjoyable relationships offering up themselves to the first bidder as if their heart is up for sale. As if God isn’t the one to help them find a spouse. As if God’s promise of “exceedingly and abundantly more than all you can ask or imagine” isn’t real. IT IS REAL!!! Wait on God!

God can be trusted, but it’s not an easy kind of trust. When you decide to trust God, you decide to experience a death of the self in the process and you have to deny many desires in the process. You don’t always get an answer from God immediately. But I experience time and time again, that while in the waiting period of God answering you, He provides love to you even then. To take up the room that is left in the wake of space residing in your heart. I feel myself coming to a place where I can say, like Habakkuk…

“Though the fig tree does not bud
    and there are no grapes on the vines,
though the olive crop fails
    and the fields produce no food,
though there are no sheep in the pen
    and no cattle in the stalls,
¹⁸ yet I will rejoice in the Lord,
    I will be joyful in God my Savior.” Habakkuk 3:17-18

Jesus is better.

I will not lose Jesus just to receive a blessing. Jesus is the greatest blessing. But what I know about my King is that because He loves me so deeply, He cares about how He made me and all the desires in my heart. Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” He will implant them in your heart. Literally. Then He will be the one to provide, but it takes time sometimes. And we must be strong enough and brave enough to wait. Anything worth possessing takes time to grow and cultivate. Wait.

Prayer is also neccessary. Never discount the power of your communication with God.

^“Then Elisha said, “Take the arrows,” and he did so. He told the king of Israel, “Strike the ground!” He struck the ground three times and stopped. ¹⁹ The prophet got angry at him and said, “If you had struck the ground five or six times, you would have annihilated Syria! But now, you will defeat Syria only three times.” 2 Kings 13:18-19

Why did you stop praying?

Why did you stop believing in better?

Why did you give up and accept a mediocre reality?

Get back up and start striking the ground with faith again!!!

It takes faith and grit to have a successful marriage. Maybe God is letting you wait so that you will have what it takes to make sure it thrives when you do get itYou are gaining beneficial resources now when your heart is pressed. Don’t give up now. 

I don’t want to give my heart in a covenant marriage to a man whom I do not love and do not feel is God’s best match for me. 

Rules of thumb: If you cannot write a love poem to him, he is not the one for you. If you don’t yearn with God-given desire to make love to him, he is not the one for you. If he does not cherish your heart, he is not the one for you. 

First, enflame your heart with God’s zealous passion.

Passionate love starts with us looking at our own hearts and yielding to Jesus. Matthew 7:5 reminds us to “get the log out of our own eye first” before you ever look to talk to someone else about what you see. That should give us a lot of time to work on who we are first. You will have the most fruitful marriage when you are the most fruitful as an individual. Then when you find another fruitful individiual whom shares your passions, giftings, aspirations and complements you, and whom you love, it will create a fruitful relationship. Remember, love is important!!! Essential! Do not forget that part!

So many assume they will fall more in love with their partner over time. You won’t fall into love with someone you don’t love. Simply put. While this is true in part that you definitely fall more in love with your lover over time, it’s only because there was lovers love at the first and thus, there is still lovers love now and forever. If there is no lovers love… there is no growing into it. You either feel it or you don’t. This is not the same as lustful attraction either. I am talking about real love. 1 Corinthians 13 love. The love that makes you lay down your life for someone.

“But God demonstrates His love to us, that of us being still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8

Love proves itself in sacrifice.

If you can lay down your life for someone, that is a good indication you love them with God’s definition of passionate love. Because that is how Jesus Christ demonstrated His passion for us by dying on the cross for us to have an intimate relationship with Him. 

Then ask yourself: what is it you are attracted to?

What you are attracted to reveals the contents of your heart.

“The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” Luke 6:45

Ridicule is evil. Watch your heart.

Kindness is good. Watch your heart.

Passionate love is comprised of both ferocity and tenderness. Kindness and exhortation. It never ridicules, criticizes, belittles, judges, discounts, nor tears down a soul. It seeks to uplift and build. This is God’s pure kind of passion. 

“It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:5

Love from God is a gift and it makes you stand amazed at God’s love for you. God designed us to have attraction for a reason that way you will have desire for the one you love and marry.

Don’t date someone you are not attracted to just to have a companion. That is not a good foundation for a loving relationship and it sets you up to get attached to someone out of loneliness that you have no feelings for, and it blocks you from being able to meet someone you actually could fall in love with. Real love is not found in “dating around.” It’s found in patience in God’s unfolding of your life. 

Patience to wait on God ensures God can actually do a miracle.

If you try to find a man yourself, you take away space for God to act. Give God the room! Give God the space! Let Him work! Watch what He will do. Don’t give up and give in just because it is taking longer than anticipated. Abraham waited decades for a child. And even after many decades of waiting, they thought maybe they could take matters into their own hands and have a child through Hagar but this only brought a mess. And it stirred resentment between Sarah and Hagar. So Hagar ended up leaving with her child, Ishmael. God never said that the promised child would come through Hagar. So why did Abraham do this? Because waiting on God often takes much longer than we have the capacity to wait.

Have you ever waited on God and then you waited so long you couldn’t hold it anymore?

“Sarai told Abram, “The Lord has not allowed me to have children, so sleep with my slave. Maybe she can have a son, and I will accept him as my own.” Abram did what Sarai said.” Genesis 16:2

Sarai waited so long she thought maybe she had misunderstood God’s words and that it would not happen after all. But it did. It just took longer than expected. 

“God said to Abraham, “I will give Sarai, your wife, a new name. Her new name will be Sarah. I will bless her. I will give her a son, and you will be the father. She will be the mother of many new nations. Kings of nations will come from her.” Genesis 17:15-16

God said, “Kings of nations will come from her.” This is a big deal. A miracle worth waiting for. A lineage and destiny worth birthing and preserving. God allowed Sarah and Abraham to be past the point of the normal birthing age so that it would be a spiritual birth, a miracle. A miracle only God could do.

I want the miracle, not the mediocre.

Too many people settle for what comes immediately out of fear they will miss out completely, but you won’t miss out on anything that has your name on it. God purposed a destiny for your life before you were ever born and He intends to fulfill it. Wait on Him.

“Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.” Psalm 139:16

Wait for God’s miracle! The miracle that makes you witness His exceedingly, abundant heart of love and generosity towards you.

“Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21

How do you remind yourself to focus on God’s promise of a miracle when all you can see is the lack in front of you?

Zoom out and see your life from Heaven’s perspective. The view that illuminates your eyes to the angels working on your behalf and the paradise awaiting you in eternal life. The God who created the most lavish paradise for you is the same God who has a miracle for you now if you would believe and cultivate patience. Don’t rush what God did not give. Abraham would realize that the child through Hagar was not the promised child. God would give them a son when they thought all hope had vanished.

“I look up toward the hills.
From where does my help come?
² My help comes from the Lord,
the Creator of Heaven and earth.” Psalm 121:1-2

There is always hope with God.

A lack of hope is a lack of belief in God.

You prove your faith in Jesus when you trust Him enough to wait on what is better rather than give in to what is available right now. 

“Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20

Your level of faith will attract someone accordingly. Seeking Jesus is the best way to ensure you find someone worthy of your attraction. If you are not attracted to someone enough to fall in love and marry, then do not waste time dating. Notice the qualities of the person and how you mesh together. 

Maturity attracts maturity.

Kindness attracts kindness.

Wisdom attracts wisdom.

Passion attracts passion.

Courage attracts courage.

Passion is just as much about self-control as it is about audacity. You need both to maintain a long lasting burning fire. A mutual fire. And true flames of love can never be extinguished. 

I wait for the Lord

because He is deserving

of my love

my heart

my affection

 

I wait for the Lord

because He is worthy

of my future

my past

my present

 

I wait for the Lord

because He is for me

always strongly with me

forever adores me

and with Him

I’m soaring

on heights of the mountains

where the rivers flow

my Lord is my best lover

my first lover

my highest lover

and He always will be

 

“I pray that[ according to the riches of His glory He will grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in the inner person, that Christ will dwell in your hearts through faith, so that, because you have been rooted and grounded in love, you will be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and thus to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you will be filled up to all the fullness of God.“

Ephesians 3:16-19